The Sacred Rebellion of Wanting More

Let's be honest about something that might make you uncomfortable: that gnawing feeling that your life is good but not great, satisfying but not soul-stirring, fine but not fierce.

You might be tempted to push that feeling down, to tell yourself you should be grateful for what you have. But I'm here to offer you a different perspective—one that honors both your gratitude and your deepest desires.

I know this feeling intimately because I lived it.

For years, I perfected the art of surviving - and calling it fine. Through failed marriages, domestic abuse, single parenthood, even homelessness at times, I kept telling myself and others "I'm fine." I had education, came from an upper middle class family that valued achievement, but found myself alone, struggling, stumbling my way toward something I couldn't yet name.

When people asked how I was doing, "fine" became my armor. It protected me from having to explain the gap between where I came from and where I was. It kept me from admitting that despite all my education and potential, I felt lost.

But deep in my soul, even in the darkest moments, there was a voice that kept whispering, "There's more. You're meant for more."

I felt guilty for wanting more when I had so little. Wasn't I being ungrateful when others had more stability than I did? Wasn't I being unrealistic to dream of extraordinary when I was barely managing ordinary? Who was I to want greatness when I kept stumbling and failing?

Here's the deeper truth that changed everything: Wanting more isn't selfish—it's sacred.

That desire stirring within you isn't a character flaw or a sign of ingratitude. It's your divine design refusing to be diminished. It's your soul's rebellion against the lie that you should shrink your dreams to match society's expectations of what women over 50 deserve.

But here's why this feels scary: We've been conditioned to believe that wanting more past a certain age is inappropriate, greedy, or delusional. Society whispers that your time for dreams has passed, that you should be content with what you've built, that rocking the boat at this stage is irresponsible.

These messages are lies designed to keep your power contained.

The sacred reframe: Your desire for more isn't evidence of your inadequacy—it's proof of your infinite capacity for growth, creation, and impact.

Every great woman who changed the world did so because she refused to accept "good enough" as good enough. She honored the sacred rebellion of wanting more and used it as fuel for transformation.

You have sacred permission to want more joy, more purpose, more passion, more prosperity, more power. You have divine authorization to look at your life and say, "This is good, but I'm designed for great."

The invitation is clear: Stop betraying your greatness by pretending good enough is enough. Your fierce spirit didn't navigate all those decades of challenges to arrive at mediocrity.

You are in your PRIME TIME. Your wisdom is your superpower. Your experience is your platform. Your dreams are your divine inheritance.

Now is the moment to stop saying "it's fine" and start living on F.I.R.E.™

The biblical story of Lot's wife offers a powerful metaphor for this phenomenon. Despite divine warning, she couldn't resist looking back at the city she was leaving, instantly transforming into a pillar of salt—frozen forever between past and future.

Salt, interestingly, has long been symbolic of preservation and stagnation. Like Lot's wife, when we remain fixated on what we've left behind, we become vessels for regret, resentment, and missed opportunities—emotional states that crystallize and immobilize us.

The truth? At 50+, you possess a richness of experience and wisdom that was not available to your younger self. The real tragedy isn't in having a past—it's in allowing that past to overshadow your present and future.

The P.A.S.T. That Holds Us Hostage

In NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming), P.A.S.T. represents a powerful acronym that reveals exactly how backward-focused thinking constrains us:

• Pain we refuse to release

• Assumptions about what's still possible

• Stories we keep telling ourselves

• Triggers that reactivate old wounds

This mental framework creates a self-perpetuating cycle. We relive painful experiences, make limiting assumptions about what's still possible, reinforce negative self-stories, and constantly trigger ourselves back into these disempowering states.

The result? Depression, anxiety, diminished self-worth, and a profound disconnection from our sense of self. We want more, yet we keep looking in the only place it can never be found—the unchangeable past.

Balancing Your Inner Compass

As women navigating life after 50, we must recalibrate our inner compass to point forward. The 6 Pillars of F.I.R.E.™—Confidence, Relationships, Health & Fitness, Intuition & Creativity, Financial Independence, and Sexuality & Sensuality—represent areas that require balance if we are to move toward our North Star, the manifestation of our dreams.

When these pillars are aligned, our path forward becomes clear. When they're unbalanced—often due to excessive focus on past regrets—our magnetic field weakens, and we attract more experiences that keep us stuck.

The Allure of Yesterday

Why do we cling so tenaciously to what was?

• Sometimes it's because the past feels safer—it's known, while the future remains uncharted.

• Sometimes it's because we believe our best days are behind us—that youth equaled possibility and aging means decline.

• Sometimes it's because we carry unresolved grief or regret—emotional weights that anchor us to specific moments in time.

Whatever the reason, this backward focus creates a peculiar form of psychological suffering. We experience the pain of the past while simultaneously missing the joy of the present and forfeiting the potential of the future. We waste our precious "now" moments mourning what can never be changed.

The Now Moment: Your True Power Source

The Core 4 Principles—Purpose, Passion, Prosperity, and Power—can only be activated in the present moment.

• Purpose isn't discovered by dwelling on past missed opportunities but by aligning with who you are today.

• Passion isn't about rekindling old relationships but about allowing your authentic self to flow freely in alignment with what brings you joy NOW

• Prosperity doesn't flow to those trapped in old scarcity stories but emerges naturally when Purpose and Passion align in the present.

• Power is your natural state of BEing Fierce, Intentional, Resilient, and Empowered, and manifests only when you're fully present and aligned with your divine design.

When we truly understand this, we realize that our age is not our limitation—our perspective is.

Every woman who has ever transformed her life after 50 has done so by facing forward, by using the wisdom of her past without becoming its prisoner.

Breaking the Spell of "What Was"

Many women over 50 fall into the pattern of sentences that begin with:

• "I used to be..."

• "Back when I was younger..."

• "If only I had..."

• "I wish I could still..."

These phrases keep us mentally and emotionally tethered to versions of ourselves and lives that no longer exist. They create a false narrative that our worth, beauty, possibilities, and joy have diminished with time rather than evolved and deepened.

The insidious nature of backward-looking is that it's often disguised as wisdom or experience. We think we're being realistic or practical when we limit our current possibilities based on past experiences. But there's a crucial difference between learning from the past and living in it.

The Moment of Decision

Just like Lot's wife, we stand at a critical juncture. Behind us lies the familiar—comfortable in its predictability even when painful. Ahead lies the unknown—exciting in its possibilities yet requiring us to release our grip on what was.

The choice seems simple, yet it requires extraordinary courage. It demands that we trust that what lies ahead is worth more than what we leave behind. It requires faith in ourselves and in the wisdom we've accumulated through every trial and triumph.

Most importantly, it requires recognizing that our most extraordinary chapter isn't behind us—it's unfolding right now, choice by choice, moment by present moment.

Are you ready to adjust your mirrors and set your gaze on the horizon? Your future is waiting, but you'll only find it by looking in the right direction.

The women who truly Age with Power™ understand a fundamental truth: we cannot change a single moment of our past, but we hold complete authority over how those moments shape our future. By deliberately shifting our gaze from the rear-view mirror to the windshield, we transform from being frozen in time to dynamic creators of what comes next.

The past may have written your story until now, but you alone hold the pen for every chapter yet to come. The only question that matters is: which direction will your story move from here?

About the Author

Dr. Diva Verdun, the Fierce Factor Expert and Architect of Ageless Power™, is the founder of FENOM University and the Age with Power™ movement, where she empowers ambitious women to crush it after 50 and rewrite the rules of aging. Through her signature Core 4 Principles of F.I.R.E.™ — Purpose, Passion, Prosperity, and Power — she guides women to ignite their inner brilliance, embody their authentic power, and expand into a life of bold, liberated expression. On the campus of FENOM University, Dr. Diva leads transformational experiences, legacy brand training, and deep mindset shifts designed to help women rise into their next chapter with unstoppable fire.

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